Online dating tips men first email

03 Dec

Most women take a passive approach to online dating.

Often we think about the old dating rules, which clearly state men should be the ones to pursue women. I am telling you to toss away your feminine ego and dating rules of the past if you truly want to get more dates and meet the man you could possibly fall in love with.

There is nothing inherent about initiating an email conversation that screams out “desperate”. Where most women screw up that first email contact is by taking one of two approaches: 1) telling him how great he is, or 2) explaining why you’re great and why he should write back to you. Is there something particularly energizing in the phrase, “I think we have a lot in common”?

Is it really all that intriguing when he explains why he’s a good partner for you, even though you haven’t met?

My online dating tips are proven, practical and down-to-earth.

Here’s what I have to say about reaching out to men online.

Read his profile, find something you both have in common or that resonates with you and mention it.

One of my best online dating tips suggests not waiting at all!

That is EXACTLY the metaphor I use for private clients in describing the “tone” you want to capture in your initial contact.

You’d never hit on a guy at a bar by walking up to him and telling him that he’s cute, he seems nice, and that you’d like to buy him a drink.

Here is my question: Are men ok with women sending introductory emails to them? In some ways, I see a email hello similar to a come-hither look at a bar, etc.

but in other ways it seems very aggressive and therefore a turnoff to most men. Dear Jane, Your question brings up two of the most common mistakes that women make in online dating: 1) Waiting for Men to Write to You First 2) Telling Him What You Like About His Profile First things first: Men LOVE it when women write to them. If you have an attractive photo, interesting essay, and you’re in his target demographic, why WOULDN’T he be excited to hear from you?